cry1Abuse and Domestic Violence-Recognizing the Red Flags

Unfortunately, domestic abuse, and any other kind of abuse for that matter, can happen to anyone, even you. This global problem is often denied, excused, and even overlooked. This becomes painfully true when the abuse isn’t physical, but psychological. When you acknowledge the signs of abuse in a relationship, you can take the first steps to end it. No man woman or child should live in fear, especially when it stems from the person that he or she loves.

Understanding Abuse and Domestic Violence

Spousal abuse, also known as domestic abuse happens when one person in a marriage or intimate relationship dominates and controls their partner. When physical violence is involved, it is known as domestic violence. The object of the abuser is to gain and maintain control so that guilt, fear, intimidation, and shame are felt. Remember, a person who is an abuser will never play fair. The abuser does everything in his or her power to wear the other person down. Classic abusers can also threaten or physically hurt you.

When it comes to abuse and domestic violence there is no discrimination. It occurs between same-sex partners and heterosexual couples regardless of economic status, ethnic or religious backgrounds. Women are usually the ones who are victimized, but men are also abused, especially emotionally and verbally. Men can also be physically abused as well. The bottom line is that abuse should never be tolerated and is not acceptable, whether it comes from a man, woman, teenager, or an elder. Everyone deserves to be respected, valued and most importantly, safe. 

Recognizing Abuse is Your First Step

Domestic abuse will usually escalate from verbal abuse to threats of violence. Although physical injuries can be severe, the psychological and emotional consequences are just as damaging. An emotionally abusive relationship will destroy your self-confidence and yourself worth leading to depression and anxiety. Often those who experience domestic abuse feel alone and helpless. The first step is recognizing your situation. By acknowledging the fact that you are in an abusive relationship, you have taken the first step. Once you know that you are in an abusive situation, you can get the help that you so desperately need.

Signs of Abuse in a Relationship

Although there are several signs in an abusive relationship, the most obvious is fear. It’s a huge red flag when you or someone you know is afraid of their significant other. If you or someone you know walks around on eggshells when they are around their partner, something is definitely wrong. Watching what you say to avoid the inevitable abuse is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. If your partner is constantly belittling you, trying to control you or making you feel helpless, desperate, and alone, it is time to recognize that you are in an abusive relationship and need to get some help.


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